Apologizing with Love

Love Never Fails by Shattered Infinity, on Flickr

Apologies are tricky things.

Apologies are always to be meant, never to be falsified, and sometimes done more out of love or respect than a willingness to admit wrongs. Sustaining relationships, whether romantic, platonic, or familial, means often humbling yourself to the basic nature of love itself. Love is kind. Love is patient. Love is not easily angered and quick to forgive. Love is caring and protecting.

Think back to the last time you hurt someone. What do you remember? Were you right or were you wrong? Don’t be surprised if you can’t quite recall — you are not alone. But let me ask you this: did you hurt feelings? Exchange words you didn’t mean? Did you cause someone pain unnecessarily? Much easier to remember, right?

Apologizing after making a mistake is easy once we realize that we’ve wronged someone. Usually we feel genuinely sorry and want to repent for our errors. Apologizing after an argument, though, now that’s hard. We as humans tend to get caught up in our egos and desire to be right. It’s only natural. Wanting to be right, instinctively, can’t be helped. But, we can change the way we view the situation or argument as a whole, and how we handle it afterwards.

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Giving With No Strings Attached

I'll Give You All I Can... by Brandon Christopher Warren, on Flickr Tonight I witnessed something particularly ordinary, but interesting nonetheless. A man in the theater parking lot where I was walking got out of his car and immediately crossed over to the other side to open the door for his wife. She walked out without even so much as a thank you and just moved past him. He stood smiling the whole time.

Some may think, “Why does he put up with that? He shouldn’t do that if she’s not going to appreciate it!” She offered him no thanks, no gratitude, and nothing in return. And yet, he was still happy to do it. Although it may seem difficult to believe at first, this small, simple act showed me so much unconditional love. His actions did not come tagged with a condition or an expectation. He simply loved his wife and wanted to do something nice for her. No strings attached.

Often times I find people struggling to give without expecting anything in return.

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