I am a perfectionist. A very lazy, procrastinating perfectionist, but a perfectionist nonetheless.
Perfection is something that, unfortunately, many of us do seek. We are always told how we can be better, try harder, make more money — the endless demands of others’ can often snowball together into a desire to meet every single one of the standards we hear around us. But these are not our standards. It is not our job to be what others want us to be. Our “job” is to be the best that we can be, and that does not equal perfection.
Here are some tell-tale signs that your perfectionism may be hurting more than helping you:
- You beat yourself up over every small mistake.
- You have immense regret about the mistakes you’ve made in the past.
- You constantly strive to better yourself while never appreciating how far you’ve come.
- You just don’t feel “good enough”.
- You have made incredible progress, but you feel unhappy.
We are all human. We make mistakes. We learn. We get better. This is something I’m slowly learning myself, and realizing it alone has made me more content. There is a saying that life is not about the destination, but the journey. In the same way, we do not need to strive for perfection. In doing so, we will lose sight of how we have grown and what we have achieved.
“Life doesn’t ask us to be perfect. It just asks us to try our best.” — Unknown
There is nothing wrong with trying to be a better person or reaching for a goal that’s a little above your reach. Life is about constant growth. So celebrate your little accomplishments. Give yourself credit where deserved. Practice daily kindness and love. Heal for the sake of your own happiness and nobody else’s. Be good to yourself. Try your best. That’s all we can ever really ask of ourselves.