I have a very vivid recent memory of my sister falling up the staircase at our parent’s home because she had tripped over my youngest sister’s books. She had been texting while walking, in all honesty, and wasn’t looking where she was going, but she immediately turned to yell at my littlest sister for leaving her books on the stairs.
Although it seems like a simple enough situation, the immediate reaction of the sister who fell provides me with an example of a very common behavior that people tend to let go by unnoticed in their daily lives: playing the blame game. I’ve been guilty of doing it plenty of times, and I’m sure that if you think hard enough, you’ll be able to admit to doing so, too. When we are faced with a mistake, it’s scary to look ourselves in the eyes and say “Hey, you. You messed up.” When we struggle to face reality or when we get angry or upset, it’s very easy to project our frustration onto someone or something else.
Being constantly defensive and refusing to accept our own faults may cause us to suffer by feeling like we always have to prevent others from criticizing us. By trying to avoid feelings of inadequacy, we may be creating a paranoia of ever being wrong. In the long run, this hinders our potential for growth as human beings. How can we ever change if we never accept that a possibility for change even exists?